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The Little-Known Personality Type that Makes Success Easier

Lori De Milto

I used to be an introvert. When I was a kid, I was so shy that I would hide behind my mom when people came to visit us—even people who I knew. 

I like to be around people, but I don’t need or want to do this too often. I get energy from working alone on things I care about. And I go out of my way to avoid conflict. 

These are all classic characteristics of introverts.

But I’m also assertive and willing to take risks. And I make decisions quickly.

These are all classic characteristics of extroverts.

So it turns out I’m actually an ambivert.

You probably are too—because there are more ambiverts than introverts or extroverts.

What’s an Ambivert? 

Ambiverts are part introvert and part extrovert. We’ve been around for a long time, but have only recently become widely recognized, thanks to research by people like Adam Grant, PhD, a professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School, and Susan Cain, author of The New York Times bestseller Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking and co-founder of Quiet Revolution.

Grant found that two-thirds of people don’t strongly identify as introverts or extroverts. These people are called ambiverts, and they have characteristics of both introverts and extroverts. 

“If you are an ambivert, it’s much easier to be a successful entrepreneur alone,” says Grant. Many successful entrepreneurs and effective leaders are probably ambiverts.

Ambiverts are stronger than introverts and extroverts

Even psychologist Carl Jung, who developed the concept of extroverts and introverts back in 1921, said that people aren’t purely extroverted or introverted. Another psychologist, Hans Eysenck, came up with the term “ambivert” in 1941. Eysenck said that ambiverts offer a balance between the hypersensitive nature of some introverts and the domineering attitude of some extroverts. 

“Ambiverts fall smack in the middle of the introvert-extrovert spectrum. In many ways, ambiverts have the best of both worlds, able to tap into the strengths of both introverts and extroverts as needed,” says Cain. 

Success Comes Easier to Ambiverts 

Ambiverts are flexible and adaptable. We know when to talk and when to listen, unlike extroverts who tend to dominate conversations and introverts who are too quiet. These characteristics help us succeed in business.

One of the greatest advantages of being an ambivert, says Grant based on his research, is the ability to shift between showing the strengths of an introvert to showing the strengths of an extrovert. And we can do this at the right time.  

“The ambivert advantage stems from the tendency to be assertive and enthusiastic enough to persuade and close, but at the same time, listening carefully to customers and avoiding the appearance of being overly confident or excited,” Grant said.

Marketing for Introverts and Ambiverts 

Being an introvert—or thinking that you’re an introvert—makes success in business, especially if you have to do your own marketing harder. Freelancers and other solo professionals often say things like:

  • “I don’t like putting myself out there” 
  • “I hate selling myself.”
  • “I’m an introvert so I’m not comfortable with marketing.”

But if you’re actually an ambivert like most people—and not an introvert—then you already have characteristics that will make marketing easier. You just need to recognize this!

If you are an introvert, shifting your attitude from “I hate marketing” to “I can do this” will help—a lot!  

3 Ways to Get High-Paying Clients without “Selling Yourself”

Whether you’re an introvert or an ambivert, effective marketing doesn’t require you to “sell yourself.” 

1. Develop a client-focused Linked profile and website.

By focusing on their needs of your target clients and how you meet those needs, you pre-sell your services. When the client calls you, the conversation will be much easier. And if a client is reading your LinkedIn profile or website, he/she may just send a message or email instead of calling.

2. Use direct email to persuade your ideal clients to hire you.

Direct email is one of the most effective ways to get high-paying clients, and it’s comfortable for introverts and ambiverts. Each direct email is customized and focuses on how you can help the client solve its problem(s).

3. In networking, focus on giving more than you take.

Clients want to do business with people they know and trust—or people referred by people they know and trust. That’s why building a strong network is so important. And giving more than you take, or helping others without expecting anything in return, is much easier—and much more effective—than trying to sell your services. 

Volunteering for professional associations is one way to give more than you take. As a volunteer, you’ll make key contacts and get more referrals without having to make small talk with strangers.

What Are You? 

It doesn’t matter that you’re an introvert or an ambivert (or possibly an extrovert). What does matters is knowing your personality—because you’ll do your best work when you can draw strength from your personality instead of fighting it.

Find out what you are

Take The Quiet Revolution Personality Test to find out whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert.

Stretch your personality 

Once you know what you are, figure out ways to tap into your strengths. And know that you can stretch your personality, like Cain and I have.

“Until a few years ago, I was terrified of public speaking, and I am still amazed that such a giant fear is conquerable. During the last few years, I’ve given hundreds of talks, a fun fact that would have astonished my childhood—even my 40-year-old—self,” says Cain.

About 8 years ago, I started giving presentation at conferences of professional association to share what I’ve learned and build authority and my network. The first time I gave a presentation, I held onto the podium with a death grip. But I forced myself to do more presentations, and I learned as much as I could about presenting. I definitely stretched the extrovert parts of my personality to get to the point where I enjoy presenting. 

Lori De Milto is a coach/mentor for freelancers, a freelance writer, and author of “7 Steps to High-Income Freelancing: Get the clients you deserve.” Lori also helps freelancers find and reach high-paying clients through her 6-week online course, Finding the Freelance Clients You Deserve.

This article was originally published on May 4, 2018 on LinkedIn. View the original article ›